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Heal your mind and body

Do you suffer from female impotence? Often women do not seek help for fear of being labelled, fear of being inadequate or through embarrassment. Those do seek help often find that the treatment offered falls short of their needs and results in a deeper sense of despair.

Eighty per cent of women who seek help for sexual dysfunction complain of having no sexual desire, libido, tiredness, depression, illness, stress, anxiety, relationship disharmony and negative body image. Although it may not appear serious at first, the condition can cause much unhappiness and frustration if it is not talked about and effectively treated.

Mal Weeraratne an expert in female sexuality explains that the mainstream courses of treatment including marriage guidance and sex therapy often prove ineffective because they do not address and treat the whole problem.  Mal who is the founder of Tantric Journey has worked in the sexual therapy sector since 1994 and in an authority on the subject of the female orgasm, he has helped thousands of women regain sexual feelings and lead happy live with fulfilled intimate relationships.

Mal explains how unfortunately, when sex has equalled pain (either physical or emotional), a vicious cycle often sets in and women avoid sex altogether or unintentionally put up barriers known as ‘Body Armouring’.  Wilhelm Reich the pioneer psychotherapist and sexologist who postulated the orgasm theory: That full orgasm is the very centre of human experience and ultimately determines the happiness of the human race, developed the theory of Body Armouring, the process whereby past traumatic experiences are stored in the body muscle tissue at cellular level and as a result the body’s tissues harden, creating tension and blocking energy in the area that has been traumatised.   This means that traces of the emotional content of every negative sexual experience have been recorded in the muscular tissue of your genitals.

Mal explains how past traumatic experiences such as sexual abuse, rape, complicated childbirth, surgery or negative attitudes to sex may all contribute to the lack of ability to orgasm as every unsatisfied sexual experience is recorded in the cellular memory of your body.  Creating an invisible armouring,  that your body creates to reduce its vulnerability to pain, discomfort and possible danger. There is a parallel to this process and this is the reduction in the ability to experience pleasure.

Research has shown that only a quarter of women achieve orgasm through penile penetration, leaving three quarters in need of additional clitoral stimulation. It is estimated that 12 per cent of women are anorgasmic (never reach a climax). In fact because the sexual organs have been subjected to vigorous condemnation from childhood, onwards, the pelvic basin has become a major storehouse of negative imprints, restricting and inhibiting the woman’s ability to enjoy full sexual capacity and preventing the full enjoyment of orgasmic release. In effect the armouring process not only protects from pain, but also from the woman’s own desires and instincts.

Mal explains how his pioneering treatment Tantric Journey can help anyone who wants to improve the quality and well-being of their life, by teaching them to understand the needs of their own body, mind and spirit and being able to communicate effectively to fulfil and gain their needs and desires.

He explains how we are all born free and pure, with positivity and love, which is the natural state of our being. However, throughout our existence we are subjected to a barrage of negative beliefs, conditioning, physical and psychological abuse which slowly builds up layer upon layer of negativity.  What Tantric Journey aims to do is peel back these layers and restore a state of balance and positivity.

Tantric Journey begins with four key practices:

  1. Deep breathing with focus
  2. Body movement with feelings
  3. Chanting with expression of emotions
  4. Tantric Massage to remove negative imprints

Through the practice of Tantric Journey teaching and guidance is offered to teach clients how to become receptive to the four key practices. The process moves at a pace set by the client and helps with sexual dysfunctions, enhancing sexuality; teaching the individual to fully relax and be able to fully let go. Breaking down the layers of negativity and removing Body Armouring, Tantric Journey can help to eliminate aches and pains and help to deal with many negative issues around sexuality leading to a heightened sense of wellbeing and a new ability to enjoy pleasure and sexuality.

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Sexual healing is liberating and exciting

Why Is There A Need For An Alternative Model To A Brothel?

In 1994 Mal Weeraratne founded the first Tantra Temple model in the UK, this was a center where sexually wounded and disenfranchised could seek healing. This was a place where issues such as childhood abuse, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, sexual trauma, and intimacy issues could all be addressed and healed. This was a not-for-profit business and one that was founded to address the issue of sexual healing. However, it was branded a brothel and forced to shut down by the English Authorities.

What Mal had set up was a Tantric Temple Model that offered men the opportunity to be healed and was an alternative to visiting a prostitute.It is currently estimated that 80,000 people working on the streets that are involved in prostitution in the UK (Kinnell 1999 -many experts believe the number to be far higher now and Mal believes there are over 500,000 prostitutes working in the UK, on the street, working from home, brothels, massage parlous and in Escort agencies). Worryingly statistics tell us that up to 5,000 children may be involved in prostitution at any one time, with a female to male ratio of four to one. [Home Office (2004), Paying the price]. These figures are from official statistics and it is probable that the true figures of those involved in prostitution are far higher.

In London alone, there are 2,000 brothels, all of which employ immigrant labour – as much as 80 per cent in some cases and with much of it being illegal. There are many issues that surround prostitution including abuse, sexually transmitted disease, trafficking, drugs, underage girls and poor working conditions. Women and children abused in prostitution experience severe and long lasting physical and mental health problems. Prostitution is harmful to the prostitute as constantly submitting to unwanted sex is very damaging to women’s mental health, self-esteem and sexuality and often leads to the need to disassociate – through taking drugs and/or alcohol.  Whatever the reason for women entering prostitution, her drug and alcohol dependency is likely to increase. Prostitution also has an impact on family life, for families where women become involved, and also families of the men who buy sex including health risks and loss of income. It is fair to conclude that the model of prostitution that currently exists in the UK is far from ideal and whilst it is an industry in demand it is one that does not protect its workers or resolve the issues of the men that seek their services.

According to research nearly 1 in 10 UK men visit prostitutes (university College London and Home Office), however, due to the secretive and illegal nature of visiting prostitutes and brothels, it is difficult to gain accurate statistics and it is thought that most men visit or seek the services of a sex worker at some stage in their life. Mal explains that many men visiting prostitutes need healing and are searching for solutions to their emotional pain and sexual dysfunction, he goes on to explain that they will not find these answers at a brothel as they need deep healing work. Indeed the research from PRE concluded many men got nothing but a ‘bad feeling’ from visiting prostitutes.

Mal explains that if‘damaged’ men, i.e. men that have been abused, sexually traumatized or have been emotionally deprived are likely to experience sexual blockages. Mal explains that emotional deprivation including the absence of breast feeding or sufficient breast feeding as a baby can cause men to experience emotional difficulties in adulthood. Therapist Kimberly Moffit confirmed that breastfeeding has psychological benefits, including increased cognitive development. Studies also demonstrate that breastfed children are less likely to have behavioral problems, and more likely to have higher IQs. According to widely accepted research, the bond babies develop with their mothers due to breastfeeding leads to better emotional development and stability.(1)The act of breastfeeding and the skin-to-skin contact involved releases the hormones serotonin and Oxycontin in both the mom and baby, which encourages a strong emotional bond between them. (2) furthermore, breastfed children are protected against mental health problems (3,4) and addictions.(5) They tend to be higher in intelligence (6,7) and more emotionally secure than children who were not breastfed.(8)

It follows that boys who are rejected by their mother’s or are deprived of touch from their family go onto lack security, confidence, love and intimacy. The importance of touch and the power of touch should not be dismissed or underestimated. We begin receiving tactile signals whilst still in the womb, with the vibration of a mother’s heartbeat being amplified by amniotic fluid. Professor Peter Andersen, author of ‘Nonverbal Communication: Forms and Functions, explains that touch is important in the relationship between children and caregivers, he says, “It’s an essential channel of communication with caregivers for a child,”. The skill of non-verbal communication through touch is essential for bonding and if this is not learned at an early then it can cause problems in the forming of relationships and in expressing emotion.

Similarly, the lack of a father in the family unit or parental abandonment has serious consequences on the development of a boy. Boys that don’t have a father figure actively involved in their life are more likely to suffer from depression, withdrawal, feelings of social and physical inadequacy and to get bullied.

Boys who don’t receive enough attention, time, acceptance, encouragement, tenderness, discipline, stability, security, guidance, love or wisdom from their parents and caregivers as children are more likely to suffer from mental health issues including anxiety, aggression, withdrawal and impulse control and mood disorders. Research also shows that these boys will often encounter difficulties forming peer relationship will have a higher risk of depression and suicide risk. Furthermore they will go on to have problems establishing loving relationships with girls and are more likely to form addictions, serve prison sentences or get in trouble with the law. In short these boys can grow up to be violent with stagnant anger emotions stored. If these blockages are not treated they can go on to pose a threat to society, by becoming child abusers, committing domestic violence, raping etc., indeed the study by PRE supports this view with the study recording nearly one-half of the sex buyers stating that rape happens because men get sexually carried away (47%) or their sex drive gets “out of control” (48%). Sixteen per cent stating that they would rape a woman if they could be assured that they would not be caught. Acknowledging their sexually coercive behaviors with non-prostitute women, 37% told us that they had tricked non-prostituting women into having sex by lying to them.

It seems that the old myth that brothels stop rape is not true and that  in the wake of The Savile scandal that shocked the nation, and a rise in reports of sexual abuse that is  consistent with sharp jumps in reports of physical attacks on children and the statistics of domestic violence failing to fall coupled with the fact that statistics only tell the story of those cases reported; it seems more important than ever that we need a way of stopping men from committing these terrible crimes and creating more victims that continue the cycle of abuse. Mal strongly believes that Tantric healing is the solution to breaking this cycle of abuse. However his views and beliefs have seen him encounter a prison cell whilst serving a sentence for living off  immoral earnings, despite the fact he never took a penny profit.